about lena

Hey lovely,

I'm not sure anyone becomes a specialist in conflict resolution without first avoiding conflict for a long time.

For most of my life I excelled at people pleasing and swallowing down my anger in a fight. I repeated the early patterns of conflict I was shown in my two marriages. I avoided, downplayed, and fixed everything I could.

But then, as a midwife, I began helping women navigate relationships, advocate for their needs, and learn how to communicate more productively. I started to make the connections between our need to be understood and how we are communicating that need.

As I stepped away from midwifery and into the next phase of life, I started to articulate the Fight Languages. Putting names to the people I had been helping for years.

My hope is that the Fight Languages will help you find more understanding and connection in your life - most especially to yourself. Cheers to making the world a little kinder with me.

  • midwife

    For over a decade I worked as a midwife, owning 3 birth centers. I was driven to empower women as they advocated for themselves in major transitions.

  • explorer

    Deep in burnout and divorce, I brought the wisdom from every birth room to my own personal rebirth. Bringing understanding about our internal conflict.

  • guide

    The culmination has been a new framework for conflict. Understanding ourselves and others through the Fight Languages.

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