What are the Fight Languages?

The 5 ways we fight and a shortcut to clear communication.

What's your Fight Language?

Are you an easy going Extinguisher? A spicy Ignitor? Maybe a peacekeeping Negotiator?

Take the quick 10 question quiz to find out!

Fight Language Quiz

Hi, I'm Lena.

I wrote the book on the Fight Languages with the goal of having you feel more understood and better able to navigate conflict - with anyone!

Let's change the conversation and pivot your conflict towards connection.

Learn more about Lena here
  • In Your Relationship

    Stop having that same old fight and start understanding each other in a new way. The Fight Languages will have you feeling even more connected.

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  • At Work

    Become a more effective leader and create an environment that will support your whole team with the Fight Languages. Move your workplace forward.

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  • With Your Parents or Kids

    Elevate your relationship with your kids, or your parents, with the Fight Languages. Set down old familial patterns and discover a new way to connect.

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Quick Start:

The Fight Languages book is finally here and ready to help you change your relationships.

Available as an eBook, soft cover, or hard cover. Stay tuned for the audio book coming soon!

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Work with Lena:

Jump into a customized experience by working 1:1 with Lena. Explore your Fight Language and how to translate relationships with others. Each session with Lena will unlock new skills and bring clarity to old patterns.

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Become fluent in the Fight Languages with this introductory course. This package includes:

1. A 90 minute workshop taught by Lena with insight about conflict and all 5 Fight Languages.

2. The Fight Language Translator, a key document for making sense of the Fight Languages.

3. Fight Languages in the Wild, a quick reference guide for easy identification.

4. My Fight Languages, an interactive worksheet to personalize conflict

  • Mama Knows: Episode 105

    The 5 Fight Languages and why you should know which one you are, with Lena Morgan

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  • Unforgetting: Episode 33

    Lost in Translation: Understanding your Fight Language with Lena Morgan

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  • Biotypical: Episode 144

    How to Find Your Fight Language, with Lena Morgan

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  • Rachel Grant

    Lena was masterful at asking the questions that helped me get at the patterns and beliefs that were causing me to show up in my life and relationships. I gained the insight and understanding I needed and felt so seen, heard, and understood!

  • Michelle Marshall

    I had been in therapy for 3 years and it didn't seem like I was getting anywhere. Working with Lena, I have learned how to mother myself, I am no longer in that dark place, no longer in that toxic relationship and feeling the BEST I have felt in YEARS! 

  • Nyla Predmore

    Life is full of shifts, and fortunately for me, I’ve had Lena alongside me through several. I like to say, “I can do hard things because I’ve done hard things,” but I’ve done hard things because women before me, like Lena have shown me how.

  • Sandy Pradas

    I think Lena's approach is genius - if you keep getting into fights, why not start right there with the fighting? That one session was more helpful than many standard counseling sessions that we've had.